Meant to Be?

Maybe it wasn't meant to last.

And that is okay.

You’ve probably been through all the reasons it ended. Whether or not you were the one to make the call, the pain is still there.

Did you know that? Even if she ended it, she feels the pain too? She cared about you, or else she would not have dated you.

I didn’t have failed relationships. Failure says that it was all for nothing... but you learned so much. It did not turn out the way you expected, so you probably have some pain or scars because of it. You didn’t deserve to be treated badly, disrespected, or like they didn’t have time for you.

Every cloud has a silver lining. What did you learn? Did you learn that you have some things you need to work on? Would apologizing and forgiving quickly make things better next time? What things are non-negotiable and what can you compromise on for the good of the other? Through past relationships, I certainly learned about how I should treat a future spouse and how I want to be treated.

Life moves on, don’t miss it! Go out with your friends. Meet new people. Pursue hobbies. Don’t give up on finding your soul mate, but don’t let it keep you from living in the present… life is an adventure!

This is the first time I've posted an original poem of mine. I know it's nothing fancy, but I hope it resonates with you.

Meant to Be

By Ariel Smith

Were we really meant to be?

I thought so, but now I see.

We laughed and teased,

And for a while, we were pleased.

I thought I knew you,

And that you’d come through.

But our differences became a wall,

One that wouldn’t fall.

I tried so hard to be the one you needed,

But ended up feeling defeated.

I prayed and pleaded with God above,

That somehow this would turn into love.

But once again, the tide has shifted.

Through God’s love, my heart has lifted.

It was not meant to be,

For I was not fully free to be me.

The days ahead may seem long,

But in God’s arms, I truly belong.

Though I am single tonight,                        

God’s plan will come to light….

The day I find out it is true,

That God loved me so much that He led me to you.

Have a blessed weekend!

Seek Him First

Singleness

Singleness is never easy, especially when our desire is to find the one we are going to marry and journey through life with. There can be days that we think once we find our other half, we will finally be happy, and our lives will begin...

Why are you waiting for your life to begin? Are you afraid to be alone? I had to learn how to be content and joyful in the moments I felt very alone at college. Those are the times that I was focused on my relationship with God and studied the Bible. He reminded me that I belong to Him. He will do that for you too, if you take time to sit still and listen.

Let's Be Real

In all honesty, if we are not content in our singleness, we will not be content in marriage either. We bring the issues we have as single people into marriage. Why not use your time of singleness to open up to God, and learn from Him and His word? Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness. He is always faithful to come and meet us where we are.

Will the longing go away? I don't think it will completely. But the worry will fade. We do not decide what happens tomorrow, that is in the hands of our Creator.

Here is something that continues to help me as I prayerfully wait for God's best: God loves spending time with you. He's not ready to let your heart be won/given to another. He so hopes that you will desire a relationship with Him, and soak up the love He gives so generously.

Time for Adventures!

This is the time to go on adventures, grow in independence, and figure out your passions and talents! God is developing your character and valuable spouse qualities in this season of waiting. He is also preparing your spouse to meet you, and be a beautiful match! Don't give up hope! God knows the desires of our hearts, and will fulfill them (or change them) in His timing.


“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” - Matthew 6:33-34