Let's Be Independent Together!

Learning from the pros: Hermey and Rudolph

You're independent, they tell you. Independence seems to make singleness an attractive status, does it not? You can do whatever you want, whenever. What about the times you really want to be doing your "independent" thing with someone else? When you are hoping to share the adventure? More than that, you want to share laughter, ideas, and time.

Freedom or a Cage?

Does independence free you, or cage you? Do you make decisions to go out, do more and learn new things, regardless of who (if anyone) is by your side? Or do you wait around by yourself, hoping someone will remember you? When you seclude yourself, you open the door to letting your thoughts and the lies you’ve heard become more and more real. You start to convince yourself that this is how it will always be, and that you don’t deserve someone.

That’s not true. We were created to be in relationship with God, first of all. It’s important to remember that God made Adam... and then He made Eve. It wasn't good for man to be alone, so God sent Eve to fill that need.

Filling the Void

We cannot fill each other’s emptiness. The ache for companionship and love is only truly filled by God. Once your heart belongs to God, you are in the right place. God knows the desires of your heart… and if you are willing to ask Him to make His desires your desires, you are going to have a full, wonderful life! If He placed the desire in your heart to be married, He will fulfill that desire. He knows your spouse, and you, better than you know yourself. He knows what you need to be learning while you are still single, so that you will be ready to be the best you for the love of your life. I have to remind myself not to get so caught up with my plans and my timing… because God holds time in His hands, and has the bigger picture.

I’m going to live this day fully, by being my spunky independent self. Being alone isn’t the worst thing ever. But… if you want to join in on the adventures, and add your own spin to it, I’d be happy to let you J.

This post was also published on my other blog: http://afuturehope.wordpress.com 

Seek Him First

Singleness

Singleness is never easy, especially when our desire is to find the one we are going to marry and journey through life with. There can be days that we think once we find our other half, we will finally be happy, and our lives will begin...

Why are you waiting for your life to begin? Are you afraid to be alone? I had to learn how to be content and joyful in the moments I felt very alone at college. Those are the times that I was focused on my relationship with God and studied the Bible. He reminded me that I belong to Him. He will do that for you too, if you take time to sit still and listen.

Let's Be Real

In all honesty, if we are not content in our singleness, we will not be content in marriage either. We bring the issues we have as single people into marriage. Why not use your time of singleness to open up to God, and learn from Him and His word? Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness. He is always faithful to come and meet us where we are.

Will the longing go away? I don't think it will completely. But the worry will fade. We do not decide what happens tomorrow, that is in the hands of our Creator.

Here is something that continues to help me as I prayerfully wait for God's best: God loves spending time with you. He's not ready to let your heart be won/given to another. He so hopes that you will desire a relationship with Him, and soak up the love He gives so generously.

Time for Adventures!

This is the time to go on adventures, grow in independence, and figure out your passions and talents! God is developing your character and valuable spouse qualities in this season of waiting. He is also preparing your spouse to meet you, and be a beautiful match! Don't give up hope! God knows the desires of our hearts, and will fulfill them (or change them) in His timing.


“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” - Matthew 6:33-34

Giving God the Pen

The Very Thought of You

If God intends for you to marry, the person you are meant to marry is most likely walking around this earth! He or She is ALIVE.

I don’t know about you, but that makes my heart beat faster. Every day is one day closer to actually meeting the one God has saved for you. If you are a Christian who loves God, is committed to purity, and desires to follow Him, give Him the pen to write your love story. Just look at the love story He has already written! The sacrificial love of Jesus Christ is the best love story of all time.

God is Faithful

I look back on my life, and see how God has been faithful in all things; the good, and what I perceived as bad. I have learned to trust God sooner with situations, relationships, and unexpected events that turned my world upside down. He proved Himself trustworthy in all of this. Now I am learning to trust Him with my love story. I challenge you to trust God with your story too.

Would your actions and thoughts right now, while being single, honor your future spouse? It takes some time looking deep into your heart, and asking God to reveal things that would not be honoring. And changing those will take effort; but it would be great to be able to meet your spouse one day, and have such a gift of purity and honor to give them. I know I would feel cherished if my husband was able to do this for me!

A good friend of mine, Mark Brunner, put it this way: “God designed us for marriage.” I had never heard anyone say that before. This idea can really step on people’s toes, but I think it is true. Adam and Eve. Jesus Christ and His bride, the church. Lifelong commitment. God is committed to us; are we committed to Him?

“A God-scripted marriage is more than worth waiting for. If you live to honor your spouse with every thought, word, action, and friendship all the days of your life, you will unlock the secret to the kind of love you’ve always longed for. (Ludy)” (Italics refer to Proverbs 31:12; which is applicable for husbands and wives)

So...

Are you ready to trust God to write your love story?

 

Inspiration for this post was given by “When God Writes Your Love Story”, by Eric and Leslie Ludy. I highly recommend this book!