Prince Charming Lessons: Does She Even Know I'm Alive?

Get Her Attention

     This week’s topic is “things you can do to get the girl’s attention”. I wanted to give you guys more opinions than mine, so my friends helped me. There are always pick-up lines, and my suggestion would be to do a funny one… because I know I’m not the only woman who loves to laugh. Stay away from sleazy ones, because we don’t appreciate them.

     Now, here are a few tips to get started: Be sincere by being who you are, and be thoughtful with your actions. This includes a friendly smile, opening doors, and making small talk. Show confidence; I know this is tough, but try faking it. Women should appreciate a guy willing to make an effort to approach her. If she doesn’t, she is not worth your time.

Advice from Women

Here are some of the things that have worked for my friends:

This friend of Kätlyn’s was confident, and so sweet.

This is what Kätlyn said: “Most guys beat around the bush and try to feel you out to avoid sacrificing their pride, but once my friend just sat me down and said "I have to tell you: I think you're the most amazing person I've ever met." (It worked, and he still tells me that every day!)”

Ashley wrote that a good man “makes me laugh and is good to my friends and family.”

Respect is a very important quality for a man to have, and I (Ariel) would never date someone who doesn’t respect his parents, my parents, and authority.

Melanie wrote: “Watching him with kids was huge for me. He was awesome with his friend’s kids.”

I totally agree with her. Seeing a man be gentle with children is so heart-warming. And yes, holding a baby (and doing it right) is a “chic magnet”… just know how to care for the baby first. I know there are a few women that don’t like children, so this may not be an attribute they are specifically looking for.

Charlie said: “One of the guys who asked me out reminded me of that can I have your number skit guy (it's on youtube if you haven't seen it). I said no, but I really liked the fact of how straight forward he was. He wasn't all weird about trying to figure out if I liked him or not. He just went for it.”

This guy didn’t beat around the bush. Yes, this seems a little forward, but it can work… it’s one of those things that depend on the woman. Some like forward men, some don’t. You can usually tell by seeing if the woman you want to approach is outgoing, social, and possibly dramatic.

Valerie wrote: “Today an old man on the street asked Rachel and I, "Do you cook as good as you look?" And offered us a vegetarian cookbook. Pretty fantastic.”

I doubt this guy got a date, but he did use a cute and funny line.

The Basics

     I have a few thoughts to add. Everyone likes to talk about themselves, and women are no different. Say hello, and pay attention to what she is doing. Is she reading a book? Ask her about it. Is she sitting alone in the cafeteria? Ask if you can sit with her. Then start small talk: ask her about herself. Easy questions, like what she is studying, if she has hobbies, and if she’s seen any good movies lately. I have always thought that if a young man gave me a rose, and said he was thinking of me, I would just about melt. Try it sometime, and let me know her reaction J.

     Don’t talk to a woman if she has headphones in. That is a sign that she doesn’t want to talk to a stranger. If you are an acquaintance, feel free to say hi as you pass her, or even sit by her. Just be aware that she may not feel like talking to anyone, and it’s not just you.

Good Luck!

     I hope by now you have a few ideas to try out next time you see that girl you’ve had a crush on for weeks… or even longer. She may not even know you like her, so be gentle. Leave some feedback if you have ideas, or questions I may answer J. Thanks for reading!

Quotes for the day

“Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.”

Ann Landers (1918-2002);
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"First you treat a woman like a person, then a princess, then a Greek Goddess, then a person again" -- Shawn's advice on how to treat a woman. (from Psych)