Dear Women...
This post is for the women who read my blog. I want to help
the guys out by giving you some advice. I, for one, never want to hurt a guy
who was brave enough to ask me out on a date. Men have to be brave because they
fear rejection. What’s worse than being rejected is being led on.
Don't Lead Him On!
Please don’t lead him on! Leading him on is when you agree to
a second date, even though you aren’t interested in a deeper relationship. It is
texting him all the time when you don’t even care what he’s up to... or you are
already dating someone else. It’s telling him you care about him, and leaving
him a week later for someone else. This cuts him much deeper than he lets on.
They are trained their whole lives to be tough, to be men. But they still have
feelings and emotions that should be treated with respect.
The First Date
Let’s say you are attracted to this guy you’ve known for a
few weeks/months (maybe years ;). You finally get the courage to go talk to
him. (To you guys out there: a lot of us are afraid to talk to you because of
the risk of rejection… rejecting us and our attention.) Maybe this time you
actually hit it off. He asks for your number, and you give it. (Don’t just give
it to him, if he asks for it you can tell he wants it.) Ideally he calls, and you set
up a “first date”.
During the date, things go fine. You find out some things,
like he’s into hunting, or he has a weird sense of humor. After the date, be
serious with yourself. Are you excited at the thought of seeing him again? Did
you enjoy the time you spent with him? If not, don’t agree to a second date.
AND… don’t use the “just friends” line. Guys HATE that! They know that you will
never pursue a friendship with them. Just kindly say you are not interested in
a deeper relationship.
I know, it’s a lot to remember. And most of the time, we live
and learn. It’s okay to make mistakes. Just try your best not to make the same
ones next time, and try to be compassionate J.
Quotes for the Day:
“ Sometimes the last thing you want to be is just friends,
being limited to looking into their eyes seeing the miracle and dream you can’t
have.”
“The worst part of life is waiting. The best part of life is
having someone worth waiting for.”
From searchquotes.com
