How to Attract Your Princess

Hello Again!

It's good to be back! Life really started for me this summer, and I have been having one adventure after another. God has taught me to be confident, and to enjoy life.

Changes to Make You Into Prince Charming

I have a friend who was describing his ideal woman. He used words like kind, thoughtful, loves kids, and classy. Want to know how to attract a woman like this? Read on.

Stop Cussing

You grew up in an environment that used curse words, or you learned them all from your buddies in high school. Classy, mature women are not attracted to men whose vocabulary is full of cuss words. Personally, it is the first outward sign that shows me who a guy is... and that he is not what I'm looking for. Also, because I'm a Christian, when a guy uses my Lord's name as a cuss word, he is no longer attractive. Have a friend keep you accountable to cussing less. If you replace those words each time with something positive, I believe you will overcome them.

Classy Ladies Are Modest

You can often tell a lady has class by the way she dresses. Is she modest? If she isn't one to flaunt what she's got, it's a sign that she respects herself. And, most ladies who dress modestly want to reflect their values, whether it be their faith, conservative nature, or their self-respect.

Kindness, Thoughtfulness, Loves Kids

These are traits you can find out once you get up the courage to talk to her. It's okay to start your relationship as friends. That way you aren't going into the relationship blind. And, by spending time with her without the pressure of a relationship, you can see if she has the characteristics you are hoping for.

Thanks for reading! I hope I can get back into writing new posts regularly :)
In case I don't write again till then... Happy Thanksgiving!

Dear Women; Stop Leading Him On!

Dear Women...

This post is for the women who read my blog. I want to help the guys out by giving you some advice. I, for one, never want to hurt a guy who was brave enough to ask me out on a date. Men have to be brave because they fear rejection. What’s worse than being rejected is being led on.

Don't Lead Him On!

Please don’t lead him on! Leading him on is when you agree to a second date, even though you aren’t interested in a deeper relationship. It is texting him all the time when you don’t even care what he’s up to... or you are already dating someone else. It’s telling him you care about him, and leaving him a week later for someone else. This cuts him much deeper than he lets on. They are trained their whole lives to be tough, to be men. But they still have feelings and emotions that should be treated with respect.

The First Date

Let’s say you are attracted to this guy you’ve known for a few weeks/months (maybe years ;). You finally get the courage to go talk to him. (To you guys out there: a lot of us are afraid to talk to you because of the risk of rejection… rejecting us and our attention.) Maybe this time you actually hit it off. He asks for your number, and you give it. (Don’t just give it to him, if he asks for it you can tell he wants it.) Ideally he calls, and you set up a “first date”.

During the date, things go fine. You find out some things, like he’s into hunting, or he has a weird sense of humor. After the date, be serious with yourself. Are you excited at the thought of seeing him again? Did you enjoy the time you spent with him? If not, don’t agree to a second date. AND… don’t use the “just friends” line. Guys HATE that! They know that you will never pursue a friendship with them. Just kindly say you are not interested in a deeper relationship.

I know, it’s a lot to remember. And most of the time, we live and learn. It’s okay to make mistakes. Just try your best not to make the same ones next time, and try to be compassionate J.

 Quotes for the Day:

“ Sometimes the last thing you want to be is just friends, being limited to looking into their eyes seeing the miracle and dream you can’t have.”

“The worst part of life is waiting. The best part of life is having someone worth waiting for.”

From searchquotes.com

One-in-a-Million

Make Her Feel Special

Every woman wants to feel special. When you get into a dating relationship, making the woman you are dating feel special is crucial. If she doesn't know you believe she is one-in-a-million and great because of it, she may start looking for someone else. It is a sad, but often true, fact.

Listen

How are you going to make her feel special? First, listen to what she is telling you. Did she mention a test coming up in school, or if she is having trouble at work? Check back in with her a few days later and ask about it. I am always pleasantly surprised when a guy asks me about something I had been working on, whether it had been a school project, or a job application. This proves that you were listening, and that you care. (This is a very good thing :)

Compliment

Please compliment her. Did she dress up for your date? Tell her she looks great, beautiful, pretty... She will love any of those complimenting words, and kind original ones you think of yourself. Women have low self-esteem generally, so this should make her feel beautiful. (Women who are vain or selfish may not react the same way as shy or modest women. Remember what type of woman you are after, and take her reaction into consideration.)

Don't Forget the Flowers!

Flowers. Women love flowers. Unless she has a severe allergy to flowers, they are a great way to show her you were thinking about her... if she does have allergies, she may never want to see you again ;). (Most women aren't allergic to flowers. If you are concerned, ask her before you buy them if she is allergic.) Nothing says "You're special" like a dozen roses or a bouquet of her favorite flowers.

Need any other ideas? Leave a question or comment at the bottom and I will get back to you.

Quotes for the day

“A woman doesn’t need a perfect man. She just needs a special guy who can accept her the way she is and make her feel special.”

www.searchquotes.com

“When you have once seen the glow of happiness on the face of a beloved person, you know that a man can have no vocation but to awaken that light on [all] the faces surrounding him.”

Albert Camus (1913-1960); www.values.com

Are You Ready or Not?

Are you Ready?

Are you ready for a relationship? Be honest with yourself. Are you willing to put someone else's needs and desires above your own? There are so many things to think about when you are considering starting a relationship.

First of all, what kind of relationship are you looking for? If you are looking for a short, "fun" relationship, please don't date a woman hoping to get married soon. Don't waste each other's time. Be respectful of one another's time and emotions. (This goes for women too!)

Or Not?

Do you have a job? Get one. Women respect men who are working and men who have ambition. Besides, if you don't have a job, how will you pay for dates? Be prepared to pay for every date, and you will show her she is worth your time and money.

On first dates, find out what things she is interested in by asking questions. Be paying attention to see what things you have in common. Look for the 4 "princess" qualities you have previously decided are important to you. People who respect authority and parents, are thoughtful, and are genuinely interested in what you are saying are most likely mature enough for a relationship.

Be Thoughtful

In a relationship, you will have to be sensitive to the other person's needs. This means if she wants to take things slow, you honor her wishes. If she has a lot of homework and is stressing out about it, don't push her to go out with you. Win her heart by showing you care and that you are there for her.

By the way... don't forget about your friends. Make time to hang out with them. They will be there for you even when she isn't.

Quotes for the day:

A woman doesn't need a perfect man. She just needs a special guy who can accept her the way she is and make her feel special.

A relationship should not mean 'I don't talk to my friends anymore.' never lose your friends because of a relationship.

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from searchquotes.com

Finding Your Princess

Qualities You are Looking for in Your Princess

What qualities are you looking for in your prospective princess? I have made a list of qualities that I desire in my future prince, and I think it would be helpful for men to make a list about their princess too.

Tips for Narrowing Your List

Here are tips for writing what qualities and characteristics you are looking for in a woman you date.

1. What are your values and beliefs? Are they important to you? Are you okay with compromising?
This is an important issue that can make or break a relationship.
2. What do you like to do? Would a girl who's afraid of bugs totally throw off your outdoor-loving lifestyle?
3. Do you want her to be smart and able to keep up with you? Some girls will be bored to tears listenning to your latest science experiment.
4. What things do you need to have in common? Do you both like to cook, or is she a picky eater?
5. Is she an introvert, or an extrovert? Will she be comfortable with your loud friends, or is she at home in a library?
6. So hopefully you have some sort of list started. Now, try to come up with 3-4 qualities that you will not compromise on. I know, sounds tough, but I know you can do it. And yes, gorgeous counts as a quality...

Remember*: She's Not Perfect, and Neither are You!

It had to be said. Everyone has flaws. I am sorry to tell you that there may not be a girl with ALL the qualities you wrote down... it probably depends on how long your list was ;). By having 4 qualities that you won't compromise on, you have a good base to find women you are attracted to.

Don't Waste a Lot of Time

You have either asked the girl out, or are planning to see her again. In your first date, or "get to know you" time, try to ask questions that will show you whether or not she has the qualities you are looking for. That way, if you are totally incompatible, you aren't so deep in that it will hurt to get out.

*Remember: If you are looking for a princess, you have to treat her like one!

Thanks for reading! Leave a comment at the bottom :).

Quotes for the day:

All guys should learn from Mario Bros. No matter how far their princess is, they should go after her.
(searchquotes.com)

1: I told you I would always come for you. Why didn't you wait for me? 2: Well, you were dead 1: But death cannot stop true love...All it can do is delay it for a while.

The Princess Bride Quotes
(searchquotes.com) 

Adventurous Men are so Attractive!

Tips for an Adventurous Life    

     Be adventurous. Girls go for guys that have a passion for living. There are so many opportunities to try something new, and you need to take the initiative and go for it. Are you nervous? That's okay; we women get nervous trying new things too. I am here to lend you a hand in being adventurous.

Find Your Passion 

   

     First of all, you don't have to be on a date with someone to try something new. Have you always wanted to play the guitar? Start taking lessons, or get a friend to teach you. Have you tried Frisbee golf? Have you climbed a 14er? The point is, women are attracted to men who have activities they enjoy doing. Be the one who stands out. One day you will find the woman who has so much in common with you that you can't help but be friends. And, almost every dating relationship starts as friends.

Have More than One Hobby

     I want to warn you that one hobby that you obsess about does more harm than good. Are you in a band? Is that all you ever do or talk about? She probably won't be able to stay interested in what you're saying, unless that's all she's interested in too.

Live Life to the Fullest

     I have wanted to start kayaking lessons for about a year now. I keep making excuses, because I am too busy, and I have other commitments. I know I need to do it, and soon. I can't let all my desires and passions lie undiscovered and undeveloped. Maybe I won't make it past the Eskimo roll, but I will never know unless I try. I have always loved a good hike in the mountains. I was afraid that I wouldn't make it all the way up a 14er, so I was thrilled when I made it to the top of Mt. Evans. I even want to climb another 14er.

Go for it!

     Trying new things can be simpler. When you ask a girl out on a first date, stay with an activity or restaurant you are familiar with. After you've gotten to know each other, suggest something new. I personally like it when the guy comes up with a new date idea when it's something we will both enjoy. Try the new restaurant, go watch a baseball game, go eat frozen yogurt. Keep it interesting :).
     Thanks for reading! Let me know your hobbies, and original date ideas.

Quotes for thought:

“We are all functioning at a small fraction of our capacity to live life fully in its total meaning of loving, caring, creating, and adventuring. Consequently, the actualizing of our potential can become the most exciting adventure of our lifetime.”

Herbert A. Otto - Author (from values.com)

"Adventure without risk is Disneyland."
Doug Coupland

Prince Charming Lessons: Does She Even Know I'm Alive?

Get Her Attention

     This week’s topic is “things you can do to get the girl’s attention”. I wanted to give you guys more opinions than mine, so my friends helped me. There are always pick-up lines, and my suggestion would be to do a funny one… because I know I’m not the only woman who loves to laugh. Stay away from sleazy ones, because we don’t appreciate them.

     Now, here are a few tips to get started: Be sincere by being who you are, and be thoughtful with your actions. This includes a friendly smile, opening doors, and making small talk. Show confidence; I know this is tough, but try faking it. Women should appreciate a guy willing to make an effort to approach her. If she doesn’t, she is not worth your time.

Advice from Women

Here are some of the things that have worked for my friends:

This friend of Kätlyn’s was confident, and so sweet.

This is what Kätlyn said: “Most guys beat around the bush and try to feel you out to avoid sacrificing their pride, but once my friend just sat me down and said "I have to tell you: I think you're the most amazing person I've ever met." (It worked, and he still tells me that every day!)”

Ashley wrote that a good man “makes me laugh and is good to my friends and family.”

Respect is a very important quality for a man to have, and I (Ariel) would never date someone who doesn’t respect his parents, my parents, and authority.

Melanie wrote: “Watching him with kids was huge for me. He was awesome with his friend’s kids.”

I totally agree with her. Seeing a man be gentle with children is so heart-warming. And yes, holding a baby (and doing it right) is a “chic magnet”… just know how to care for the baby first. I know there are a few women that don’t like children, so this may not be an attribute they are specifically looking for.

Charlie said: “One of the guys who asked me out reminded me of that can I have your number skit guy (it's on youtube if you haven't seen it). I said no, but I really liked the fact of how straight forward he was. He wasn't all weird about trying to figure out if I liked him or not. He just went for it.”

This guy didn’t beat around the bush. Yes, this seems a little forward, but it can work… it’s one of those things that depend on the woman. Some like forward men, some don’t. You can usually tell by seeing if the woman you want to approach is outgoing, social, and possibly dramatic.

Valerie wrote: “Today an old man on the street asked Rachel and I, "Do you cook as good as you look?" And offered us a vegetarian cookbook. Pretty fantastic.”

I doubt this guy got a date, but he did use a cute and funny line.

The Basics

     I have a few thoughts to add. Everyone likes to talk about themselves, and women are no different. Say hello, and pay attention to what she is doing. Is she reading a book? Ask her about it. Is she sitting alone in the cafeteria? Ask if you can sit with her. Then start small talk: ask her about herself. Easy questions, like what she is studying, if she has hobbies, and if she’s seen any good movies lately. I have always thought that if a young man gave me a rose, and said he was thinking of me, I would just about melt. Try it sometime, and let me know her reaction J.

     Don’t talk to a woman if she has headphones in. That is a sign that she doesn’t want to talk to a stranger. If you are an acquaintance, feel free to say hi as you pass her, or even sit by her. Just be aware that she may not feel like talking to anyone, and it’s not just you.

Good Luck!

     I hope by now you have a few ideas to try out next time you see that girl you’ve had a crush on for weeks… or even longer. She may not even know you like her, so be gentle. Leave some feedback if you have ideas, or questions I may answer J. Thanks for reading!

Quotes for the day

“Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.”

Ann Landers (1918-2002);
Advice Columnist

"First you treat a woman like a person, then a princess, then a Greek Goddess, then a person again" -- Shawn's advice on how to treat a woman. (from Psych)

Prince Charming Lessons

     The average woman has dreams of meeting Prince Charming... but let's face it, "Prince Charming" is impossible to live up to. My mission is to show men of all ages the proper way to treat women anywhere; whether she is a stranger, a friend, or a girlfriend.

Opening Doors

     Here's a scenario: you are a college student, and you are rushing to class. You go to open the door, and go inside without looking behind you. Sounds normal, right? It is a small gesture, but look behind you as you begin to open a door. Is there a woman, no matter what age, within 15 feet of the door? If she is walking towards the door, please hold it open for her. This is a great practice for every door you open. I am always impressed with a man that holds the door open for me, and know some other women feel the same way. It gives me hope for mankind.

Making Eye Contact

     Eye contact is important when conversing with women. Whether you are talking with coworkers, classmates, friends, or acquaintances of the female gender, having eye contact shows you are paying attention. It also makes her more comfortable, and she will find being with you more enjoyable than with men that let their eyes roam. Don't stare at her, it's fine to look away or blink ;). I can learn to trust men who are willing to look me in the eye, but I will never trust a man who refuses to do so.
    
 "I don't want to be Romeo and Juliet. Like prince charming or Cinderella, or even Ken and Barbie. I want us to make our own story."
(from searchquotes.com)
   
Thanks for reading. Please check back next week for my new blog about 'Getting her attention'.